It only takes a minute

• It only takes a minute to tell a loved one you adore them

• It only takes a minute to smile with a stranger

• It only takes a minute to set a big goal

• It only takes a minute to help a human being in need

• It only takes a minute to reflect on what you can do today to be better than you were yesterday

• It only takes a minute to embrace change

• It only takes a minute to make a new choice that will lead to your best life

Make the best of your minutes. Each one of them makes up your life to be a great life.

How to be happy when you are surrounded with difficult people

You sometimes feel that it is really hard to be happy due to the actions of the people who surrounds you.

They are really nuisance people.
They don't know how to live with neighbors.
They don't have any human features.
They are just selfish bunch of people, .... so on.

With this blog post, i am going talk about how to be happy despite all the above thoughts. This blog post is prepared with the help of a speech from Ven. Ajahn Brahmawanso thero about "How to deal with difficult people".

    1. Difficult people truly are a hidden treasure

• they will teach us to be patient, be kind and to improve our wisdom
• better people will not help to improve these qualities, only difficult people will help you in this regard

    2. Difficult people, Difficult experiences are natural

• Just accept that these people are natural instances. You just want to know how to deal with them.
• Don't think that these people should not be around us. They should be.

   3. Your reactions will make them difficult for you

• Those people suffer themselves more than any other. You need to help them. You can change them. One simple thing can make him the best person.

   4. Use the Sandwich theory to make them understand

• First tell him the best things about himself and make him comfortable listening to you. Then slowly give him the advice to get rid of his difficulties. Then tell him about his best life again.

   5. Do not caught in to the devil of anger

• Don't get angry about these people. That will only expand your difficulty. Just be patient and calm, then the difficulty will fade away.

 

   6. Why these people became so difficult?

• Do you think they like to be so difficult. No way. They have their problems and they do not know how to deal with them. That's why they have become so difficult. You need to understand their situation. 

   7. Who is the most difficult person you are dealing with?

• Is it your boss? Is it your neighbor? Is it your spouse? No. It is you. Yourself is the most difficult person to deal with it. It is him, who makes you uncomfortable. You need to be kind to yourself.

10 Things you must give up to move forward

Your life is doing fine. But it is not amazing !!!. It just timing out of your life. You want more than what you currently have. But you don't know how to move forward. Here some of the things you need to give up so that you can move forward to an amazing life ahead.

1. Letting the opinions of others control your life

• It's not what other's think, It's what you think about yourself that counts
• You have to do exactly what's best for your life, not what's best for everyone else

2. The shame of past failures

• Your past does not equal your future
• All that matters is what you do right now

3. Being indecisive about what you want

• You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be
• Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately

4. Replacing high priority goals of your life with low priority goals (Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you)

• There are two primary choices in life, to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing

5. Choosing to do nothing

• You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when
• You can only decide how you are going to live, right now
• Everyday is a chance to choose

6. Your need to be right

• Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong
• Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life

7. Running from problems that should be fixed

• Stop running!
• Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve it

8. Making excuses rather than decisions

• Most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions

9. Overlooking the positive points in your life

• What you see often depends entirely on what you're looking for
• You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren't thankful for the good things in your life right now

10. Not appreciating the present moment

• Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things